I’d like to abreast you that as a guy you need to make and have money in this life before you leave (though not anytime soon).
We have a family (Dad, Mum and Siblings), Relations, present Girlfriend, Future wife and children, in-laws, friends, etc to take care of in no distant time.
God knows we are working hard to see that we never fail in our responsibilities especially the First son and I pray God will continue to uphold us and never allow shame to catch up with us.
But, while we work hard and smart to make money I’d like to beg you to avoid anything scam in every way possible because I believe in the saying Cool Naira is satisfactory than hot dollars. When you make money legitimately it brings with it peace of mind and takes away any form of fear of the unknown.
Also, I’d like to let you know that you should never give up in your quest for a better life because you have not fulfilled that promise to Mum and Dad who have given up so much to groom to who you are today. We owe them a lot but I will say here that please don’t kill yourself or do more than yourself because in the end Health is the greatest Wealth. Like my Father will say Na pesin wey dey alive go work and enjoy.
Now, I’d digress a little and talk about something important which is Woman, God looked at man (Adam) in the Bible and said to his Angels let Me make a him a companion.
Note: Man was doing well before God created a Woman but with the introduction of the woman, man began to do very well. God’s understanding supersedes any kind of human understanding.
As a young guy you need associate yourself with a young lady as a girlfriend who will love, care, pray, advice you genuinely and most importantly support you as you do the same for her too. Remember God created a woman to help a man, and I will chip in this “the association of a man and woman under the umbrella of love is to help each other and not to be one-sided “. Simply put, woman is a helpmate not a chop mate.
Put some distance between yourself and slay queens (those who only knows how to eat sharwama but can’t boil water, take ice cream but can’t cook, go to parties but don’t know the house of God, living expensive life they can’t afford themselves, always after money that they can’t make themselves and so on, without any meaningful contributions to your life rather leaving you worse off than you were before you met them) because it has a healthy effect on your account balance and importantly your life. Slay queens live by the creed of no romance without finance. They don’t want to work but always want to chop with somebody’s workshop
You need a lady whose love for you is sanitised and not commercialised. If you keep giving a lady you are dating money, you are not helping either yourself or her. That money acts as a disturbance in the water that stirs it up and prevents you from seeing what is at the bottom of the river.
Note: Love comes with sacrifice because God Sacrificed his son for our Salvation (John 3:16), support and assist each other but not taking full responsibility.
As a young guy you need a lady who sees the love sign and is ready and willing to build with you, not her who sees a dollarsign and is ready and willing to wreck you.
As a young guy before you seek for a good young lady, assess yourself if actually you’re good.
Avoid involving yourself with multiple women under the umbrella of love because you’re cutting your life shortinstallmentally and gradually.
You must not date every young lady you meet, the lion only eats meat not grass. For once try and have preference and not look or behave like one who’s got no choice or a goat .
We can’t ignore the importance of a good woman, so therefore as a young guy go to God in prayers and ask Him to link you with that young lady that will be a blessing to you and not a curse. So that when you look at your life you’ll thank God.
Relationship is a big compromise paid with lots of sacrifice, so if you are not ready to sacrifice then better stay out of it. More so, it is a team work (which means both persons involved will have to work for its success) and not an avenue to use or exploit anyone.